Her : A Memoir by Christa Parravani


This was a fascinating memoir written by the author about her identical twin sister, Cara. I was drawn to this book because I had heard that the two girls had been raised and went to school in the Capital District and there are certainly many references to local landmarks. As you may imagine, the girls are more than close growing up and share many interests. However, Cara veers down a different path as she spirals into drug abuse. She also is the victim of rape and that also serves to send her into further descent. Christa tries to help her sister over and over again with various results. Unfortunately her sister dies of a drug overdose and leaves Christa behind to try and pick up the pieces. Christa then sees all too clearly that the odds are not in her favor of surviving – over 50% of surviving twins don’t live past 2 years after their twin dies. Christa then has her own struggles as she tries to reconcile what happened to her sister and slowly but surely fights back to live in the present. This is a powerfully written book, at times funny and heartbreaking but ultimately shoings how strong the human spirit is.

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  1. I’ve read this recently and I enjoyed it too. I found the idea of identical twins living without ‘the other’ fascinating. One of my good friends (from childhood on) had identical twin sisters, both gorgeous and just enough older than us that they were fascinating. One of them died when they were 16, in a Jeep accident. We were in late elementary school and I can remember so clearly what an impact that death had on my world, my friend’s world, and our social community. This book was a very interesting read, and being in the front row, watching the surviving twin cope, was so moving. Great book!

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